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Hacker News users are debating how to convince family and friends to leave mainstream messaging apps for self-hosted XMPP or Matrix servers. The discussion, started by developer mtlynch, focuses on the practical and social challenges of decentralised messaging: getting non-technical relatives to install new apps, switch habits, and stick with a server run by one person. Replies share persuasion tactics, onboarding friction, and mixed success stories.

A new tutorial explains how to install and run the Matrix Synapse chat server on a Debian virtual private server. Synapse is the reference homeserver implementation of the Matrix protocol, which allows users to host their own decentralised, federated messaging infrastructure. The guide walks through setup and configuration for self-hosters and administrators looking to run their own chat server.